“For in the same way as you judge others, you will be judged, and with the measure you use, it will be measured to you.” Matthew 7.2
Could there be any greater incentive to thinking and speaking kindly of other people than this? Our internal attitude to others may well rebound on us. It’s not that God’s love to us changes or that we are punished for what goes on in our minds, but there is another factor at work.
As we release others from our judgments, we experience a new level of freedom ourselves. This works in a very simple way. If we are constantly finding fault – even when we do not express it verbally – then this becomes the filter through which we view life. As this continues, we become accustomed to looking for the less-than-perfect and soon begin to find it all around us, and certainly within ourselves.
If, on the other hand, we don’t spend our time finding fault with others, then we are unlikely to be pre-occupied with our own faults. Instead of looking for the negative, we will find ourselves looking for the good and the positive – and we will find this in ourselves as well as in others.
Whenever you catch yourself judging someone, let it be an alarm bell to alert you to look for something positive in them instead.